Summer lover or Winter lover? Here’s why I dislike summer.

We all know that the past few weeks the heat in the UK has been ridiculous with highs of 21 degrees. I myself know that when it comes to the heat it’s a big no from me I’m afraid, I would much rather cuddle up on the sofa with my boy and a hot chocolate watching soaps/movies or if Jake has it his way then it’s blaze and the monster machines! (Rolls eyes) with a duvet over us all snuggled! Who am I kidding that only happens in movies… I will be under the duvet Jake will be playing with his toys or throwing them around the room!. As they say it’s a lot quicker to warm up than it is to cool down and that is why winter is my favourite time of year.
Don’t get me wrong the sun does put me in a happy mood but not so much when the heat comes with it too, I can get very snappy with people very quickly if I am too hot. But when I suffer from the heat I tend to stay inside or I get outside take Jake to the park for half hour and think why the hell did I do it? I’m sure I’m not the only one who thinks this too? Now as I’m typing this saying that when the sun is out I would rather stay indoors I must seem like a complete bore but I’m just being honest with what I would do with my day, I am not one for the beach although if it was for Jake for an hour or so I would do it for him.

Now as a mum especially I find the heat even worse because the hay fever is out of control and so is your child so whilst your sneezing your way through hell you’re trying to either discipline your child or try and find your child’s favourite toy in your bag.

My favourite one is where you’re wanting to get a nice brown tan but if you’re a pale girl like me then you just burn red, hurt & ache and end up looking like ross from friends. Example⬇️


(If you don’t know who that is the I suggest you look it up as it will give you a giggle!) whilst you’re running around after your toddler all day, when they cuddle you and pat you on your back etc.

Everything is sticky! even if you get in the shower and an hour later you’re sticky again! You look a mess no matter how much you try to salvage your makeup with a bit of powder, Nope think again in just 2 minutes you will look like someone has tipped a bowl of water over your face and don’t get me started on the hair! remember the shower that you took that hour ago and your hair dried well, that’s now greasy from all the sweat! Again why people love summer I do not know!.

Now I know not everyone will have experienced this but I’m sure 95% of people must have! Leather seats are your worse enemy! They’re mine that’s for sure and I don’t even own a car! I’m always in the car with my mum as I rely on her so if its not the burns from the sun then it’s the burns from the seats & seat belts!

You thought having a child and not sleeping? well what about having to try sleep in hot conditions! I HATE it! In the UK we’re not privileged enough to have air con and I’m too poor to buy a fan so having the window open all day & night is my only option which many of you would say well it’s not too bad at least it lets a bit of breeze in… What breeze? I don’t have any breeze coming through so I’m laying there in my pool of sweat trying to breath and trying to sleep whilst my son is fast asleep snoring his head off!

I ran a poll on my instagram… which stated how many of your were winter lovers or summer lovers and there are far too many summer lovers! Whilst 44% loves winter & hot chocolates, 56% prefers summer & cocktails!.
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Are you a summer person or winter?

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This isn’t goodbye forever.

Hello there grandad its me your little girl, I couldn’t find you yesterday when I came to visit nan, She says to me that you’ve only left the room, you haven’t gone away but I really miss you grandad and all the games we use to play.

As many of you know on the 5th of may my grandad, My bestfriend passed away.
You can read that post A Letter to my Grandad. Here.
Well on the 30th of May 2018 it was his funeral and to say the least it was one of the hardest days I have ever had to go through, It was so difficult that I didn’t want to let go and still don’t now.

What made him such a special grandad to me? Well he was a good story teller, He always knew how to make me laugh when I was having a down day or Whenever it was time to leave his house and I didn’t want to leave he would always chase me around the front of the house tickle me and bung me in the back of the car! he always waved me goodbye and wouldnt go back in the house until the car went round the corner.
He also encouraged me to just get out there and if I want something then to just go and get it and that’s exactly what I’m doing with my writing. My grandad use to write and when he found out that at school I loved English well I became his favourite instantly! (Kidding).
He always said he knew I would be a writer and do something that involved writing and computers he always said that I was a computer whizz and he couldn’t believe his eyes when he saw how quickly I could type and it would always make me laugh. Even at times he would tell the most lamest jokes but they would still make me laugh.

So grandad wherever you are I hope you’re causing havoc and getting plenty of sleep.

Like Mother like Son. Who says mother & son can’t match?

Why is it that if you type into google then you will only see pictures of mother & daughter or father & son matching outfits? what about us single mums with little boys? People have a lot to say about mother & daughter, Father & son matching but why can’t a mother match with her son?
This came to light as when I typed into google all I saw was pictures of mother & daughter, Father & son. Not one picture was mother and son. I am a mother to a boy and a single mum at that so I don’t get to see Jake and his father be in matching outfits so I decided to do it with Jake instead and I have to say I love it and do not care what people think. Who says just because I’m a mother who has a little boy why shouldn’t I get to join in? No I’m not saying me and my son match outfits every day but its the little things that count.

To some people it is can be classed as ‘tacky’ but I personally think that it is a great way to bond that little bit more with your child.

Here’s a few reasons to why I like to match with Jake.
1. Jake is only 2 so it’s classed as cute where as if he was 16 then it would be “Omg mum, I’m not going out with you dressed the same as me”.

2. Makes shopping easier because there’s no who’s child belongs to who questions when shopping with my mum as I am the one matching with him. (Queue nervous laughter).

3. It provides a little bit of safety as I’m able to spot Jake easily, Especially when I go to pick him up from nursery as all I have to say is that Jake is wearing the same shoes as me.

So do you single mums who have little boys wear matching stuff? Let me know who does & why they wouldn’t.

Jake’s 24 Month Update.

Yep that’s right Jake is now 2 years old! How is that possible?
On the 14th of May 2018 we celebrated Jake’s 2nd birthday! He’s absolutely obsessed with ‘Blaze & the monster machines’ as well as ‘jcb’s, Thomas the tank engine & cars’. So with all that to hand I got the perfect cake made for Jake and it was worth every penny to see the look on Jake’s face when he saw it, No of course he didn’t blow the candles out he was too busy trying to take the jcb’s off the cake. (Rolling eyes)

So what did we do for Jake’s second birthday? Well as Jake’s birthday fell on a Monday and everyone was working I decided that on the Sunday 13th of May I would take Jake to tapnell farm, Yes this is the same farm that we took him to for his first birthday too but he loves the farm and it was also a themed peppa pig day to which Jake did not get to meet her but he still had an amazing day at the farm.
Queue the pictures…

So what can Jake do or say now?
He knows and says his colours especially red.
He knows his ABC’s.
He can say his auntie Charlie’s name.
He can give kisses & loves cuddles.
He runs faster than what his legs can carry him.
He loves wearing sunglasses.
He sleeps in his big boy bed.
He also loves going to nursery and music time is his favourite time.
He has a special blanket that he cant sleep without.
He went on his first rollercoaster at peppa pig world and didn’t know what to make of it.
Jake can also count up to 10, still a slight hiccup with how he says the number 2 but he will get there.

Even though you have the odd wobbler you always hug me and show me how much you love me.

A Letter to my Grandad.

To my Grandad, My bestfriend. I want you to know that just because you’re not here doesn’t mean I don’t think of you, Nor do I not talk about you.
I think about you all day everyday no matter what I’m doing, You passing has been the hardest thing to do in my life. I thought having a child was difficult but this just appears to be that little bit harder. The last time I saw you, You was so full of life whether you was in the hospital or not, You was still laughing even though you was in pain, You was still running around making Jake laugh even though you was in pain. The pain didn’t determine what you did or how you felt because you wouldn’t let it and admire you so much more for that! The last conversation we had was you told me how proud you was of me for bringing Jake up single handed, You was proud of the little boy Jake had turned into because of me, I will never forget that smile you put on my face for saying that. When I told you that I love you for the last time I knew you loved me back because I heard you breathing, You didn’t have to say anything because I knew it already. Everything you did for me I will never be able to thank you enough but I can promise you I will continue to make you proud of me and everything I do from now on is for you!
Fly high!❤️

So the 28th of April I found out that my grandad, my best friend, the man who use to carry me around car boot sales (yes they were fun back in the day only because I was there for the bouncy Castles and ice cream!). The man who took me to feed the ducks. Well he had cancer, what type you ask? The one where you couldn’t come back from. He was 66 and had bowel, liver and lung cancer. Never in my life did I think that at 23 years old I would have to deal with my grandad dying. He was suppose to watch jake grow up, he was suppose to take jake round the car boot sales, to feed the ducks, to do the same things with Jake as what he did with me.

On Saturday 5th of may my grandad passed. He couldn’t talk on the phone so I did the talking for him, I told him I love him and I always will and that he could beat anything.
Half an hour after I told him… He died.

I know you are watching over Me & Jake and I will see you again… One day!😇

Why I Let My 22 Month Old Play With IPad/Phones.

6 Months old ⬇️

19 Months old⬇️

Never did I ever think that I will be letting my son play on an iPad at such a young age, I always knew that he was going to explore new things but never did I think I had to give up my iPad to a 22 Month old child. In this day and age there’s a lot of stigma against parents letting their child use electronics at such a young age but it’s not the 90’s anymore, Sometimes we have to let things go and move on and accept change is going to happen no matter what year we are in. 

The reason why I’m shedding some light on this topic is because having your child using and iPad, iPhone whatever electronic device you have there’s always going to be a positive reason to letting your child play with that device and there’s always going to be a negative, But whether if its a toy or an electronic device you will always get that person looking at you thinking “That child is way to young” For example as Easter is nearby I bought Jake a big kinder egg the one that has the batman toys in and the woman serving me practically told me that if the toy is for my child then he’s too young for it even though the reason why I bought the egg wasn’t for the toy but lets not get into that story. The age that Jake started to use an iPad was at 6 months old, Now people reading this will say “that’s too young” or “You’re joking?”, Believe me I wish I was. I always had it in my head that Jake will reach 5 years old and want to use iPads etc. And I have always been open for him to use them with certain rules set in place.

So shall we look at the pros & cons?

Pros:
1. It makes him happy
2. Its helping him with his development i.e. He’s learning new words everyday, he’s learning how to count, he’s learning his ABC. The mixture of nursery & the iPad has helped Jake’s speech come along way!.
3. It gives us parents a bit of a break especially us single parents that just want 5 minutes to ourselves, that certain programme you want to watch but you cant because you’re stuck watching paw patrol or peppa pig!.
4. It can strengthen the bond between you and your child by playing learning games that your child is going to benefit from it, e.g. you ask your child ‘what colour the ball is’ or ‘what sound does a duck make’.

Cons:
1. It can bring out the devil in them, e.g. if you don’t set a time frame for your child  and when it comes to taking the iPad away the tantrums begin.
2.If the usage becomes too frequent it can be used as a bribe such as if your child is  bugging you at a time that isn’t convenient as you’re on the phone to pay a bill and you cant hear the person on the phone then out comes the iPad.
3. If your child is a toy thrower then I strongly advise that there is some sort of hardback case.
4. Some things on the iPad aren’t for little eyes, Such as you have to be so careful that if they’re on YouTube. What are they watching and is it actually beneficial to their learning?

Do I want my child playing on the iPad at such a young age? No.
But has it taught him loads? Yes.

Christmas with a toddler.

Ever picture the perfect Christmas with your child/children?
The mum & dad actually together, writing lists on what to get the child, One of the parents cooking the Christmas dinner or going round to one of the families/The families coming to you for Christmas.
Well that’s how I had visioned my first Christmas, But its no surprise that again this year I’m doing it single handed. (Well not totally alone I have my family).
The Christmas decks are up, the presents under the tree sitting there nicely and then all of a sudden a toddler comes along and pulls it down… Yep I thought that this year would have been Jake as he isn’t a newborn anymore (Sad face) and he is more aware than ever! But he’s been nothing but great, Touched the tree a few times as it’s fibre optic so he’s been fascinated with the colours of the lights.

Even though some parts of Christmas didn’t go too smoothly I wouldn’t have had it any other way. Seeing the look on your child’s face when they have new toys to play with is just the most amazing moment ever and I wouldn’t change it.

Here’s some photo’s below of what went down on my Christmas, What happened on yours? and what was your best part? Mine was seeing Jake’s smile even though he’s had a cold. Oh and also the turkey dinner!