And then he turned one

On Sunday 14th May 2017 my not so little boy ‘Baby Jake’ turned one.
That’s right he is no longer a baby anymore. To celebrate Jake turning one I threw a Tea party with friends and family.

The fun part started on the 13th of May 2016 which was my due date & the day I was induced! If you haven’t read my birth story then you still can Here The morning before Jake’s birthday I had to pick up the cake that someone had made for me a design of my choice! Down below is a picture of the cake I chose.

We then finished off the day at a place called tapnell farm which is here where I live so it wasn’t overly far. Jake had a great time despite him being abit moody more than likely to be teething still. After we had finished there I came home waited for jake to go to bed which wasn’t till at least 11PM. Here’s a few more pictures of what went down that evening!


And not to forget to mention the balloons!, I had to finish wrapping the rest of Jake’s presents up too, Like picking the cake up and the balloons wasn’t enough! Anyways… The day of Jake’s birthday I layed out an afternoon spread, There was sandwhiches, cakes, biscuits, chocolate and I don’t know about you but my fav bit is sausage rolls.

The planning for his first tea party as a first time mum is memorable and hectic!, Even though I tried to make it less stressful for myself with starting the plans in April it was indeed still stressful but if I hadn’t had my family to help then I don’t know what I would do.  I still cannot believe that I now have a One year old boy.

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11 Months & 11 Days Milestone! 

So this blog is gonna be short and sweet (literally), today my little boy Jake hit a huge milestone!, At 11 Months & 11 Days old He now walks without needing help! Did I cry? Yes! But I felt so proud of him and still am proud of him, he’s becoming the perfect little boy I could ever ask for and I am so proud to be his mum. 

He still crawls from time to time as he finds that he is quicker that way but I am often finding him walking and even though he falls down he is always getting back up to try again he is so persistent on wanting to walk. So many people are always telling me that jake is so advanced for his age but I never believed it until he took his first steps, he took at least four steps before he fell! 

Below I have inserted a little clip of Jake showing off his walking skills so we can all celebrate with him! ⬇️👏🏻

Go Jake!👏🏻👦🏼

Q & A: How I Told My Parents That I Was Pregnant.

So this post is in relation to again we all know her very well by now and if you don’t then her name is Leah Prescott, She has recently done a Q&A over on her blog about how she told her family about her pregnancy and is giving advice to those who are pregnant and are scared/worried of telling their own family. I decided to be self centred as usual! And only do the Q&A based on what I done.
How to find Leah?
Twitter: https://twitter.com/xleahhprescottx
Blog: https://theprescottfamilyblog.wordpress.com/2017/04/05/my-first-qa-all-about-teen-pregnancy-how-i-told-my-parents-i-was-pregnant/

So now that’s out of the way lets begin… If you’re interested how I told my family about my pregnancy then keep reading!.

How did you tell your parent’s you were pregnant?
I was at my parents as i wasn’t living with them, I felt the urge to be sick so I was turned out I was pregnant but i also had a really bad bug virus.

How far along in your pregnancy was you when you told your family?
I was 6 weeks along me confirming as I calculated but then got it confirmed by the doctor and I was indeed right.

How far along in your pregnancy did you find out you was pregnant?
I was 6 weeks when I found out and did the test.

How did your family react?
My mum knew as soon as I was sick she hugged me and congratulated me, My dad on the other hand his reaction was hilarious and should have been filmed.
My mum said to my dad “Darren you’re going to be a granddad”. His reply was “F*** Off!”. (I think you can gather from that sentence that we all know what he said), But he said it all jokingly and laughing! (Just in case of those who thought that might have been abit steep).

Did you loose/gain any friends whilst pregnant?
I didn’t loose anyone nor did I gain anyone, I do rarely see my bestfriend but that’s not because of having my son that’s work related but we will always and have always remained close. I have always been a person who keeps themselves to themselves as it’s easier to not get caught up in drama etc. that should have been kept in school. (Yanno them type of situations)

What’s the best advice you received whilst pregnant?
My mum kept giving me the ‘What to eat to get rid of morning sickness’ speech which in the end wasn’t so helpful as i had sickness throughout my pregnancy but the best one was my parent’s kept telling me to take all the help I can get because I’m going to need my sleep.

Did you consider options such as abortion or adoption?
No i didn’t because Jake was a miracle (for me anyway as I had several miscarriages).
But no matter what age I wouldn’t have considered it as i don’t believe in that unless there was a more serious reason to.

Did you have names for both genders and what were they?
I did have names for both genders as i really wanted a girl but i had a boy and i have 2 names for a boy but only 1 for a girl.
girl: Darcie/Darcy
boy: Michael & Ronnie
But ended up calling my son Jake if you want to know the reason why for that then there is a whole post on that topic, Click Here to read it.

In 3 Words describe the birth of your child.
Over whelming
Memorable
Traumatic
If you want to know more about the birth of my son Jake then click here

Did you loose your pregnancy weight? If so how?
Obviously i gained abit of weight during pregnancy because you are carrying another person but i wasn’t weighed before nor was i weighed after. There’s something called a ‘Mum tum’ that i am in the middle of trying get rid of with the right diet and yes i am loosing weight slowly but surely.

So if you were interested in this then why not like, or even leave a comment below and tell me how did you tell your family? It’s always interesting to know.
Thanks for reading! 🙂

 

 

 

 

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21st April 2017. Our New Home.

So this is totally a ‘Dear Diary’ Moment. (Does anyone even still have a diary?).

The day had finally come when it was time I could look for mine and Jake’s own home.
He would have his own bedroom, a little routine, a place he can bring his friends when he is older, a place he can grow up to call home.
So after 3 dreadful viewings the time had come to view one more place and this for me was make or break as my luck, well I wasn’t feeling very lucky with all the places me and my dad had viewed. They were either too small, too grubby or just not safe for Jake. Lets just say nothing jumped out to grab me and say this is the one you will be happy in. Until Monday 13th March 2017 when I viewed a 2 bedroom house, privately let with a quiet neighbourhood not to mention its a 10 minute walk from my parents house, 1 minute walk to the shops aswell as the beach! Bonus!.
When I went into view the place with my mum, dad & Jake I took one look at the front room and thought yes I want to live here, I want to bring my child up here, So after looking at the rest of the house I took the forms to the car filled them out got my paperwork that they needed took it down to the estate agents paid the fee and then boom on Wednesday 15th March 2017 I got the phone call that I had dread waiting for because I’m prone to having nothing but bad news but nope this was good news and oh my god it felt so good to have someone say to you, You got your perfect house!. I can finally be proud of myself and what I have achieved and hope that Jake will also be proud of me too. Here’s a few pictures showing mine and Jakes new home!⬇️

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Friday 21st April 2017 is the day that me and Jake finally got our happy ever after and start our journey as a family together, Just me and him.


Yes I will miss living with my family, Yes I am very grateful for all the help they have provided me since I have had Jake, But I am also scared for Jake as for him growing up to have to understand about my epilepsy as I do not wish for him to see me having a seizure, For a young kid to experience is very frightening and confusing but again we will have to cross that bridge when it comes to it. (What does that even mean?)
But overall will I miss the arguments within my parents household? No!.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why I love & prefer being a young mum.

Why I love and prefer being a young mum? Well… I think that the best time to have a child is in your 20’s, Once you have got all that partying out of your system ay ladies ;).
But for me it wasn’t about the partying I wasn’t the type and I still don’t go out partying now so having a child at 21 was perfect as Jake keeps me busy. I didn’t have many friends before Jake I am a ‘lone wolf’ as they say so I just prefer to keep myself to myself.
Anyway enough of the chit chat I love being a young mum because I can do things for and with Jake without worrying about breaking my back or putting a hip out. Now I must express myself that I am not against older mum’s or teen mums its what the mother in you prefers after all everyone is different and likes different things… Any mum or mother to be whether younger or older is amazing in my eyes because carrying a child is such a special occasion and every woman should get to experience it but unfortunately the world is so cruel to those who cant, I always say to people I wouldn’t want to go through the pregnancy again etc. as I had it so rough with Jake but if I was given a chance to be someone’s surrogate as they really wanted a child then I would be more than happy to do so if a woman cant carry then they should at least be able to mother a child.

Again back to what I was saying (So easily distracted! woops).
Oh yes here are 5 things I like about being a young mum!

  1. You have a lot of energy so things like taking your child to the park, Once they start walking and learning how to get around you’re quick on your toes.
  2. When you’re a lot older you don’t need to worry about the what if you can/cant have kids because you have already had your child/children so you can carry on without wondering.
  3. People reminding you how young you are, That’s the best bit and also will feel good when you’re in your thirties.
  4.  Your children will have more memories and time of their grandparents
  5. You have much longer to enjoy motherhood.

So they’re my 5 things I like about being a young mum what are yours? Or if you’re an older mother then why not comment below and tell us what you like about being a older mum!.

Again I really hope nobody takes any offense to this as that wasn’t my intentions, It’s just really interesting to know different opinions on whether being a young mum or older mum is better and why.
– Becca”

To My Younger Self.

TRIGGER WARNING!: this post contains explicit detail. 

This isn’t really a parenting post but lets have a break from that for a week.
So I have seen a lot of people doing this ‘Dear My Younger Self’ posts so I thought I would give it ago, think long and hard about what I would say to my younger self…
Keep reading if you want to know what I would have said.⬇️

So ever since I was 7 years old I have had a tough time not just with my epilepsy and my now mental health but with childhood in general I thought my childhood days were difficult… However I never knew what difficult was until I turned 14.
So this is my first time telling the world what went on when I was younger… ever since I was in school I was never popular I was the kid that always ate lunch by herself (Sad I know) but this kept going on till I left high school and was also bullied such as I had yoghurt thrown at me aswell as a milkshake. I was always insecure about myself and it has seemed to have got worse now seeing as I have had a child, I have what’s called ‘The mum tum’ to which I’m in the process of working on my weight etc. anyway…
So I’m 14 years old it’s my 14th birthday I have a few friends round film night it is…
I wish it turned out like that.
One of the people I invited over was my sort of boyfriend but wasn’t (If that even makes sense) basically I don’t class it as a boyfriend as I was so young, Anyway the film we all decided to watch was ‘stardust’ there wasn’t enough seats in the living room so the guy I was seeing invited me over to sit on his lap to which I did I didn’t see any harm in it.
He had other ideas, I was getting sleepy but tried to fight it, I had a belt on so I didn’t think anything of it, I trusted him… He tried numerous amount of times to undo my belt to which I kept doing it back up and I told him no!.. He said okay and I thought that was the end I wont go into to much detail but if you cant tell already then yes I was sexually assaulted in my sleep.
I remember waking up mid way I asked him what he was doing there was no reply I was too scared to move as everyone else was asleep in the living room and I didn’t want to wake everyone up most of all get the guy into trouble.
The next day on his lap afraid to move during the night but as soon as everyone came downstairs such as my mum and dad I went upstairs to bed, I shut my bedroom door of course my mum came in I said I was feeling sick so was just going to sleep. So she went downstairs but then the horrid moment where I just wanted to be left I just wanted him to leave he came up to me and said “I’m going now”. My reply was “Okay talk to you later.” That I did not. Yes I heard from him again but the days got longer and the replies got less.
  Yes this was the reason my mental health was triggered and why I haven’t got better since.

What 5 points would I say to my younger self?

  1. It wasn’t your fault, you did nothing wrong. Speak up tell people about what happened, Tell the police.
  2. Just because you’re by yourself doesn’t mean you aren’t loved, Them people at your school of course they don’t care but they’re not the ones who matter and mean something to you, You will never see them people again once you leave.
  3. Not only that never let anyone treat you with disrespect because you are still a human being and so is the person disrespecting you.
  4. When someone kicks you down get back up again because showing them you’re strong and happy will kill them inside.
  5. Just enjoy the childhood you have and make the most of it because its not much better being grown up and having bills to pay!.

 

What would you say to your younger self?