How do you know what nursery is right for your child?

So September the 5th 2017 Jake started a nursery that I heard many good things about so I had no reason to look into, Not only that I did my work experience within that nursery and also live 2 minutes away so I thought it was perfect!… Boy was I wrong!

As the months went by the nursery began to show their true colours… Being that they only care about the money not the child. As many people know on November 2nd 2017 Jake had his first fit whether it’s epileptic that’s still to be confirmed but not even 2 weeks out of hospital and we was back up there again this time it was due to Jake having a temperature of 41, being sick and very restless turns out he had hand foot & mouth disease to which he had caught from the school, Now I’m not saying every school is perfect and yes children will catch things but there was no rules in place. Due to Jake being so unwell and in and out of hospital I rang the school and said that Jake will not be in for the week due to him being in and out of hospital and to me thinking he had chicken pox the manager of the school said it was no problem and that they will see Jake the week after. After the week had passed the antibiotics had worked and the cream cleared most of it up it became clear that is was hand foot & mouth disease and I had a bill of £112 to pay because Jake was off ill I still had to pay the staff even if my son is in school or not, Even though my son was ill because they allow children to go in unwell.
After this happened my mum then went to the nursery asked the manager “Would she turn up to work unwell & spread it to everyone else” The manager replied with “no”.
Well well well 2 weeks later and said manager was in the school greeting the children with a cold to which me, Jake & my family had caught safe to say I did my bit rang the nursery told them that Jake wont be attending anymore but I will pay for the sessions he had done the last week. Now something I would never do is ring people but I did and even though it was their answer machine I simply asked “To ring me back”. Did I get a call back? No I did not!.

Moral of the story is always do your research but also how do you know which nursery is the right one for your child?


100 Facts About Me.

I’ll keep this short and sweet as this post is going to be quite time consuming… That’s if you manage to get to the end! Colin has nominated me for a 100 Truths tag, in which I have to answer 100 questions truthly about myself. So here it is the whole truth and nothing but the truth! You can also find Colin’s post Here and if you want to see more of Colin then follow him over on Twitter

So here’s my 100 Facts about me!


1. What’s your name?
2. Any nicknames or aliases?
3.Your Gender?
4. Your star sign?
5. How old are you?
6. Your relationship status?
Single… At the moment
7. Any children?
One, My son who we all know and love Jake!
8. Any pets?
9. Any tattoos or piercings?
I have 8 tattoos (plenty more to come), piercings I have 4.
10. What do you like about yourself?
Nothing, Literally!
11. What do you dislike about yourself?
Easy, Everything!
12. Righty or lefty?

13.The last thing you drank?
Pure orange juice.
14. The last thing you ate?
Jacket potato with cheese & beans and coleslaw!
15. Your last phone call?
My Father.
16. Your last text message?
To My Mum.
17. Your last email?
Pictures sent to my landlord to sort my bathroom out!
18. The last song you listened to?
Stormzy – Blinded by your grace.
Q19: The last book you read?
The last book I read was ‘Fifty shades of grey’ books and that was when they first came out! Now it’s just blog posts.
20. The last time you cried?
Last week.
21. The last blog you read?
Colin’s 100 facts since he tagged me in the post.
22. The last person you spoke to?
My Mum.
 23. The last place you visited?
A Pub for lunch.
24. Your last holiday abroad?
Never been abroad.

25. Have you ever gotten back with an ex?
Once & No it wasn’t Jake’s dad.
26. Have you ever been cheated on?
Yes by Jake’s dad!.
27. Have you ever cheated on someone?
28. Have you ever lost someone special to you?
Yes a baby!
29. Have you ever been so drunk you threw up?
Yes back when I was 18.
30. Have you ever fallen out of love with someone?
31. Have you ever met someone who changed you?
Yes, But not for the better.
32. Have you ever been in a situation where you found out who your real friends are?
Yes, She decided to choose friends who she knew for 2 seconds.
33. Have you ever kissed someone you probably shouldn’t have?
Yeah Jake’s dad whilst he was with his girlfriend… Woops did I say something wrong?
34. Have you ever found out people were talking about you behind your back?
Yeah, Don’t care though. It feels good to know that I’m on that person’s mind!
35. Have you ever broken someone’s heart?
Not that I know of.
36. Have you ever kissed a stranger?
37. Have you ever had your own heart-broken?
I have 3 times, What can I say I’m a hopeless romantic!
38. Have you ever had sex on the first date?
Hell No!
39. Have you ever been arrested?
40. Have you ever been attracted to someone who isn’t the gender you usually find attractive?
41. Have you ever done something you regret?
One part yes but the other no because I got Jake out of it!
42. Have you ever had a threesome?
Hell No.
43. Have you ever embarrassed yourself in public?
Not that I know of.
44. Have you ever misjudged someone?
I don’t really judge people to begin with.

45. Do you believe in God?
No I don’t, But I wouldn’t hate someone for someone else’s beliefs.
46. Do you believe in yourself?
No not really.
47. Do you believe in Santa Claus?
No as I’m not 5 anymore but Jake will do.
48. Do you believe in ghosts?
It depends because I don’t but then if something happens within the house that I find spooky then yes!
49. Do you believe in aliens?
50. Do you believe in miracles?
Yes Because my son is one. I didn’t think I could have kids and if I can it’s difficult.
51. Do you believe in the power of positive thinking?
Not really. Someone always has to give me that push think positive.
52. Do you believe in love at first sight?
53. Can money make you happy?
Yeah only till it runs out.
54. Would you describe yourself as a feminist?
If I’m honest I’m not 100% sure. I believe in being equal that’s it.
55. Are you pro-life or pro-choice?
pro-choice, Never know the situation.
56. Do you have strong political beliefs?
Not really, It all confuses me!
57. Do you have strong religious beliefs?
58. What do you think the most important thing you can give a child is?
Your Love.

59. Are you eating anything right now?
No I’m writing this post.
60. Are you drinking anything right now?
Yes, Fanta fruit twist.
61. What are you listening to right now?
62. What are you thinking about right now?
My son.
63. What are you waiting for right now?
Well it’s 9:54pm so bed!
64. What are you most excited about right now?
Seeing my boy open his presents on Christmas day!
65. What’s your pet hate right now?
People who keep walking out in front of my pushchair knowing i’m there.
66. What’s your favourite thing right now?
seeing my boy smile and laugh.
67. If you weren’t answering these questions, what would you be doing right now?
Going to bed and watching youtube.

68. Your first best friend?
A girl called Sophie who I grew up with.
69. Your first kiss?
Was when I was 13.
70. Your first celebrity crush?
Lee from steps!.
71. Your first holiday?
When was younger use to visit the Isle of Wight for holidays now I live here.
72. Your first pet?
A dog called gromit.
73. Your first regret?
Working for Poundland.
74. Your first job?
Working in a school.
75. Your first childhood memory?
Being diagnosed for epilepsy and going in and out of hospitals for brain scans.

76. Love or money?
77. Twitter or Facebook?
78. Hook up or relationship?
79. Dogs or cats?
Love them both.
80. Coffee or tea?
Love both.
81. Beer or wine?
82. Sweet or savoury?
Both. What food is food!.
83. Introvert or extrovert?
84. Vampires or werewolves?
85. Seaside or countryside?
Uhm… I thought the seaside & countryside are the same thing as i live out in the countryside but it has seaside’s! I’m more of a city girl to be honest.
86. Summer or winter?
87. Books or movies?
Both, depends on what mood I’m in.
88. Horror or comedy?

89. Do you wish you could change your past?
Can I just change who Jake’s dad is?
90. What’s your dream job?
To be a writer.
91: What’s your guilty pleasure?
Michael Buble is!
92: What are you afraid of?
Blood, Horror films & Robbie Williams.
93. What was the first thing you wanted to be when you grew up?
I wanted to be a dancer.
94. If you could have any super power, what would it be?
Got to be dead pool’s healing process.
95. If you could change anything about your life what would it be?
96. Would you want immortality?
Only for my loved ones, where as for myself when my times up its up.
97. If you could interview anyone alive or dead who would you choose?
Michael buble! but knowing me I would just stare the whole time!
98. Would you say you are happy?
Yes very! but I also know how to fake a smile!
99. What one piece of advice would you give to yourself at age eighteen?
To just be happy.
100. Where would you like to be in five years’ time?
hopefully have a family, give Jake a brother or sister and to be either finishing my open university course and  in a well paid job that I love.

So there was my 100 facts. Where’s yours?….
Jasmin’s Twitter  Jasmine’s Blog

Leah’s Twitter Leah’s Blog

Ryan’s Blog

A letter to my baby!

I’m writing this letter for everyone to see but also one person in particular for when he is older and that would be my baby Jake (who is not a baby anymore, Sad Face).
So here it goes I guess…

To my baby Jake as you’re growing bigger my heart is growing bigger for you not a day goes by that I don’t think of you even when I’m sleeping I’m still probably dreaming of that infectious smile because I just cant get enough of it.
From the day I found out I was pregnant I knew you was going to be my world and much more. From the kicks in my tummy, feeling your heartbeat on my chest and now seeing that cheesy grin right in front of me I knew that you was going to my one and only and that will NEVER change no matter what the future holds.
Hopefully in the future you will get the family you want and deserve, you will have a person in your life that you can call ‘Dad’ and I’d like to think that you will have a brother or sister might not be blood but it wouldn’t matter to me as long you’re okay with it that’s all that matters. I am so sorry for the heartache that you will have to go through wondering if you did anything wrong because ‘daddy’ didn’t want to stick around, But you didn’t do anything wrong ‘daddy’ just didn’t want to own up to his responsibilities where as you will grow up to be a much better man because you’re being raised by me ‘Durrr’.

Writing this is the most painful thing to write as you don’t have what most people have and that’s a dad. Everyday I wake up scared because when you’re older I don’t want you to hate me for your dads actions, I don’t want you to say “Mum why aren’t I allowed to see my dad?” because that question isn’t valid, If you want to see your dad then so be it we’ll go see him and you can ask him them questions yourself, I will never stop you from doing what you want, You are your own person and always will be. The choices you make is the path you take.

But that isn’t what I wanted to focus on, What I wanted to focus on saying to you is that no matter what happens just remember I love you and I tried my best. I struggled because I wanted you to have the best childhood anyone could have asked for. When my plate had nothing on it I made sure yours did, I’ve given up getting my hair & nails done, I’ve given up having a phone contract to a pay as you go just so that you can have everything!
But here’s where the promises come into everything…
I promise to be the best mum I can be, I promise to never let you forget how much you are loved especially when I’m taking you to the school gates and forcing you to give me a kiss before I let you go, I promise that I will do my best to never let anyone hurt you, I promise to listen to you when you need to talk… Even if it is about girls!

But Jake when you’re reading this hopefully on your 18th birthday then I’m sorry for making the video where you’re twerking public! (Well I’m not sorry actually, I loved every minute of it!).

Love you Jake!

Is life the same after kids?

The most common question I get asked believe it or not is, “Has your life changed much after having your child?” and my answer to that question is yes. Of course it has. Only for the better though. To have a baby is a big decision to make at any age. Even if you’re planning to have one let alone if it was to come as a surprise. In this post I’ve put together a few things that have changed for me after having my child.

Now this is pretty obvious because of course your body is going to change… You’ve just grew & had a baby! But I thought my body was like a balloon that if you blew it up and once it popped it’d go down. That never happened for me and boy do I wish it did! but whilst I was pregnant with Jake my bump didn’t show at all till I was 28 weeks pregnant then after I had Jake my tummy did go down quite a lot but now I’m suffering with the aftermath and the voices in my head telling me I need to loose weight, I need to stop eating certain foods, I need to calorie count etc… Basically its become uncontrollable.
But nowadays especially with social media I’m finding there’s a lot of pressure and stigma on mum’s to hurry and get fit! ‘Get that summer body’ and if you’re not slim then you’re not good enough to be in a bikini and it’s really sad to see that, that is the society we live in now.

Again this is an obvious one and I wont go on about it too much as I always mention this but we all know by now that if you have a baby you’re not going to sleep and that’s it.
Even when that baby grows into a toddler you’re never going to be able to sleep in till 1pm like you use to.

Personal Space
This one I have to have my personal space especially baths etc… I have never had a bath or shower with Jake and don’t intend to either not because I disagree with the idea but because it’s just me I’d rather get in and get out and not have to worry about a small person! Where as the toilet situation they’re going in there with you no matter what you do. Toddlers are like ninjas because they always find their way in.
The worse part is where you have to go into a public toilet and instead of a bolt lock they have a lock which slides and it’s a race against time between you going to the toilet and the child working out how to unlock it before the whole of you is on display!
(Yeah that’s always a barrel of laughs!)

Bank Balance
You think you had money problems before having kids then that’s nothing compared to when you do have kids as they literally bleed you dry.
That toy you don’t want them to have? They’ll find a way of getting it even if it means ‘Accidentally walking out of the store with it’.
The cute outfits every season!, Halloween? Got to get a cute outfit. Christmas? better get an outfit!.
The trouble is that it doesn’t get cheaper if anything it gets more expensive. The Nike trainers because they looked cool well he’s out grown them.

Remember when you was either too early for an appointment well now you’re worrying you’re going to be late because the child plays up and wont get their shoes on or they’ve all of a sudden lost their coat and shoes. Or if your child is the same age as Jake then you yourself will know the battle of dressing the child etc. Especially now that Jake goes to nursery I know it’s only nursery and it’s not actual school yet but to me it’s prepping Jake ready for school so by the time Jake has to be in school on time I would like to think that I would be prepared.

So there we go a few things to prepare yourself mentally but I wouldn’t have it any other way now! 🙂

The day that everything changed!

There’s been a reason to why I have been abit quiet recently this is due to spending more time with my son and keeping an eye on him etc. as lately I haven’t been able to stop myself looking at him with worry because on The 2nd of November 2017… The day that everything changed, Jake was rushed to hospital due to him having a fit. We all think that this is linked to epilepsy as everyone knows as its no secret that I have it and have had it since I was 6/7.
But…What happens when you think your child has a disability that you have yourself?
Do you blame yourself? the guilt eating up at you, The anxiety becoming worse because you’re scared to even look away just for one second. Because that’s all it takes don’t it?
Being a sufferer of epilepsy mine was inherited from a family member but what do you do when you think your child has it?.

I spent the 2nd of November in hospital with Jake because at 1:18pm he had a seizure.

It was safe to say I was besides myself because no matter what I did Jake wouldn’t wake up and I thought that was it. Even when I was pregnant with Jake I always had the worry of Jake inheriting epilepsy and even expressed my concerns with the doctors etc.
The doctors said that I would notice it but I wouldn’t have to notice any signs till Jake was at least 4/5. I guess you can say that I do feel guilty and I do feel as if its my fault because I shouldn’t have listened to the doctors. But one thing I have noticed a change in is myself… I’m always snapping at people especially my family (Apart from Jake), I cant have a simple conversation without coming across abrupt.
But what can I do?

I have to say that this post has been my most difficult one to write let alone thinking I would even have to write a post like this.
The question still stands though, Does my child have epilepsy?
We wont know till 6 months time when Jake has a routine check up and a brain scan.

Neighbour from hell!

We all have that one neighbour from hell right? Or is it just me?

When I moved into the home of my dreams, the home that I had been waiting for, the home that Jake would grow up in, make memories in. Well that dream finally came true and then that dream was soon short lived when I started to have problems from the neighbour upstairs.

When I went to view mine and jakes home I never knew that anyone had lived above me as the set up in my home is a set up of a house. The estate agents didn’t even tell me that anyone was living above me either they also forgot to mention that there is no sound proofing. Anyway, at first the neighbour upstairs didn’t bother me as everyone has the right to feel comfortable in their own home right? Well I don’t get that luxury.

It all started when the neighbour upstairs decided to have parties and loud music on from 12 midnight to 7am. Now you would think well that’s understandable for a weekend also it’s okay for the neighbour as he’s only in his teens… well you’re wrong because the neighbour isn’t in his teens and it doesn’t happen on a weekend either. The neighbour is in his late 40’s, also has a daughter of his own (doesn’t live with him) and the music etc always happens during the week when I have to get up early as Jake goes to nursery. Now you’re probably thinking well he probably doesn’t know you have a child, maybe if he knew he would stop. Again you’re wrong, he knows how young Jake is let alone Jake isn’t well and is teething so with all of this going on I’m not getting much sleep and can’t believe how I’m still functioning.

Now the advice I’m getting from people is “why don’t you call the police?” “Why don’t you just move?” “Why don’t you go round there?”. The answer to all of those questions are

1.I have rung the police and they have said they don’t deal with noise complaints anymore you have to go through your council etc… that I did and have recorded it and still waiting for something to be done.

2.Both my mum and my dad went round there three times explained to him and all three times he said he would but still does. His excuse to my parents for the loud noise throughout night is for myself to wear earplugs and also he owns his place so basically he can do what he likes. Yes I know the response is disgusting.

3.I can’t just up and leave my place as yes this may come as a shock to some of you as because I’m a single mum I’m suppose to have a council house right? Well no I privately rent my place so I can’t just up and leave!.

But at this point I really don’t know what to do anymore he’s even brainwashed his next door neighbour who has only just moved in not only 2 seconds and now she’s telling me what to do and not to by telling me to ‘shut the gate’ which I can understand and I do myself as it draws less attention to which I like. But she also had the nerve to use my son, my Jake as an excuse that she doesn’t want him to escape from my home to then run out because the gate has been left open… unless my son is a genius that won’t be happening anytime soon not only that she’s branding me to be a bad mum and thinking I leave my son unattended… uhm no I do not, I lock my front door just so Jake can’t get out.

All of this has happened since April! And I’m hoping that will end soon.

If you have had terrible times with a neighbour what did you do about it? How did you handle it?

Five stupid things I’ve said.

We all know how annoying it can be to receive parenting advice especially from people who don’t have kids yet, Even if they mean well.
But what about the advice and promises we made ourselves before becoming a mother.
I have put together five stupid things I have said to people and myself and not stuck to it. Enjoy!

  1. My child will NOT be using technology till he is old enough to know what is what…Well guess what he uses the iPad, He uses my phone and he is only 16 months old.
  2. I will love spending time with my child all day everyday.
    Uhm… As much as I love spending time with Jake He’s at that age where he wont listen no matter how much you repeat yourself. So a break every now and then is definitely due but the only time I have apart from Jake is 4 Hours twice a week when he’s at nursery.
  3. Life will be easy and perfect when I have a baby.
    Far bloody from it. There’s always drama’s not with the child but with people wanting to see my child or whoever don’t bother with my child.
  4. I’m scared of my child making a scene in public.
    If your child is going to throw tantrum in public then they’re going to, If they’re going to sit/lay scream in the middle of a supermarket they will.
  5. I don’t want to be a stay at home mum.
    My plan after my maternity leave was up was that I was going to go back to work not because I didn’t want to be around Jake but because I wanted to show him that nothing in life is free and that you have to work for it but that got cut short as I was sacked whilst on maternity leave so once Jake turns 4/5 I will then do what I have always wanted to do and that is find a job in writing!.

What things have you thought or mentioned to other people and have not stuck to it?