Five stupid things I’ve said.

We all know how annoying it can be to receive parenting advice especially from people who don’t have kids yet, Even if they mean well.
But what about the advice and promises we made ourselves before becoming a mother.
I have put together five stupid things I have said to people and myself and not stuck to it. Enjoy!

  1. My child will NOT be using technology till he is old enough to know what is what…Well guess what he uses the iPad, He uses my phone and he is only 16 months old.
  2. I will love spending time with my child all day everyday.
    Uhm… As much as I love spending time with Jake He’s at that age where he wont listen no matter how much you repeat yourself. So a break every now and then is definitely due but the only time I have apart from Jake is 4 Hours twice a week when he’s at nursery.
  3. Life will be easy and perfect when I have a baby.
    Far bloody from it. There’s always drama’s not with the child but with people wanting to see my child or whoever don’t bother with my child.
  4. I’m scared of my child making a scene in public.
    If your child is going to throw tantrum in public then they’re going to, If they’re going to sit/lay scream in the middle of a supermarket they will.
  5. I don’t want to be a stay at home mum.
    My plan after my maternity leave was up was that I was going to go back to work not because I didn’t want to be around Jake but because I wanted to show him that nothing in life is free and that you have to work for it but that got cut short as I was sacked whilst on maternity leave so once Jake turns 4/5 I will then do what I have always wanted to do and that is find a job in writing!.

What things have you thought or mentioned to other people and have not stuck to it?

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Autumn Tag

So it’s finally autumn! Lets kick it off with an autumn post!
I tag… Leah! Where to find her?
Leah’s Twitter
Leah’s Blog

So here’s the questions & My answers…
 When does it feel like the start of autumn for you?
Needing to put a coat on.

What is your favourite autumn scent?
I don’t like the usual ‘pumpkin’ scents but I love the smell of gingerbread & vanilla cupcakes in my candles!.

What is your favourite autumn colour?
Dark red! Hence why my header is that colour!.

What is your favourite autumn drink?
As silly as this sounds I still choose to drink ice coffee in the winter etc but if I had to choose then it would be a hot chocolate!

What TV show/Movie new or old are you looking forward to watching this upcoming months?
I cant wait for I’m a celebrity get me out of here.

What’s your favourite item of clothing to wear during the colder times?
An oversized jumper for me.

What is your favourite thing to do during the colder times?
Sit in front of the TV with a hot drink & blanket!

 What are you a bigger fan of… Halloween or Christmas?
I’m not a big fan of Halloween as I don’t like answering the door at the best of times let alone to strangers. Christmas it is for me!.

So there’s the questions… Over to you Leah!

One Year & Five Months Old.

I thought I would do something fun and different… For me anyway.
I thought this post would be nice to look over pictures and see how much my son has grown and changed into the little lad he is today.

So Here’s a look back from the first day, months to now of what ‘Baby Jake’ looks like!.

Day One…

One Month Old

Two months Old

Three months old

Four months old

Five months old

Six months old

Seven months old

Eight months old

Nine months old

Ten months old

Eleven months old

One Years Old

One year & One month old

One year & Two months old

One year & Three months old

One year & Four months old

One year & Five months old

So there we have it ‘Baby Jake’ – ‘Little Man Jake’ And a catch he is!

What does being a single mother mean?

Before I get into the post a few things need to be said.
Even though I am a single mum I am talking from my experience’s as a single mum I don’t mean harm to all men and look at them as the same. To the men that stuck around thumbs up to you!.

Being a mum is hard. But being a single mum that’s a different story. It can be difficult at times because you’re responsible for whatever happens to your child/children.
You’re there all day and all night, you pay for the food that goes on that table, the clothes, shoes that they need because they’ve out grown, the nursery fee’s, the roof over their head that you’ve provided. All that is just a start and imagine only doing that on one income. Jake’s dad does provide but lets just say its only enough to buy a couple of packets of nappies so you can imagine the struggle I still have.

But even though us single mums have to put up with the good and bad, even if the situation wasn’t what you wanted or even thought would happen to you, you still march through it… So why are single mums judged? Why are single mums given a bad name? because I would happily say to the people that judge “If you want to give it a go, Be my guest”. You wouldn’t even last an hour.
But being a single mum isn’t a bad thing, Just means you get your child/children to yourself. Them cuddles that you use to get jealous over because ‘dad’ would get them well now you get them.

Being a single mum means you give up the whole of you. I don’t get the partner coming home at 5pm wanting to bath the child just so I can chill out after doing the dinner. I never got help during the night because the child was teething and I never go out for fun because I don’t have the time too. The only time I get time to myself is when my child is at nursery 4 hours for 2 days a week and even then I’m doing the housework.

So why should us single mums get the dirty looks, the whole ‘Shouldn’t have kids if you cant handle them’. For me I didn’t choose not to have Jake’s dad around, He chose that himself. Us single mums are allowed good and bad days. 

For all the single mums out there we should be given some credit because at least we stuck around and would do anything for our child/children.

Sunshine Blogger Award.

I have been tagged by the lovely Leah down below is where to find her and you can also read her post here
Twitter
Blog

 

The rules are that you recognise the blogger(s) that nominate you and answer the questions given for you in their post and then nominate 11 other bloggers and ask them 11 questions.

So here we go, If you want to see the answers to the questions that have been left for me then keep reading…

1. Who is someone who changed your life in positive way and how?
Jake. For those who don’t know who Jake is he is my son. He’s changed my outlook on life and I have learned how to love again.

2. What is your favourite Disney movie and why?
Really? You’re going to get me started on this!…
Well if anyone knows me well then they will know ‘The aristocats’ is my favourite, Marie is my favourite character and I am however a tad obsessed. I have 6 teddies one of those I have had since I was one years old and no I have not let go of it, Yes im 23 and I still sleep with a teddy that I’d happily own up to and I am not shy of it! (Enter awkward laughter). I have 6 mugs (Yet to keep collecting), the pyjamas and socks too.

3. What is the first childhood memory that pops into your head?
Not the best of memories I want to remember but it’s the only one I can remember… Being taken to the hospital to have a brain scan at the age of 7 to be diagnosed for epilepsy.

4. If you had £1,000,000 what would you do with it?
If I had no worries in the world then I would move back to Essex, get my own house and live there.
But reality is to buy my own house where I am , get passports for myself and my family and take Jake to Disney world.

5. Where do you see yourself in five years time?
Dreaming again… But I would like to think I have a proper family by then.
The boyfriend/husband, The sibling for Jake and to have a job in writing.

 6. Do appearances play some importance to you?
In some ways yes, In others no. If i know someone and i like their personality then the looks etc. wouldn’t matter.
But for example it was a random add and they liked the look of me but i didn’t think the same about them I’d still talk to them and make effort but I’d make it clear that I’m not interested in them other than friendship.

7. What was the last text message you received?
From my dad and it was a picture of Jake.

8. Where would you like to visit the most in the world?
Take my son to Disney World.

9. What is the best holiday you have ever been on and why?
I haven’t been anywhere apart from the Isle of Wight & Essex.

10. Are you missing anyone right now?
My other family in Essex.

11. What are your top 3 baby girl and top 3 baby boy names?
I have a list of baby names for boys & girls in a post of it’s own so if you would like to know then you can read more into it here   
But boys… Michael, Ronnie & Henley.
Girls I only have 2 which is Darcie & Aurora.

The people I tag to do this…
Lou
Jamie
Benny
Savana
Suhani
Mel
Bee
Supernerdydad
Colin
Kerry
Maya

And your questions are below…
1. Name 3 Life goals you want to achieve.
2. One thing or person that makes you laugh.
3. If you could go back in time to when & why?
4. Name one celeb you fancy.
5. 3 words to describe yourself.
6. What’s your worse habit?
7. What’s the most embarrassing thing that has happened to you?
8. If you had a superpower what would it be?
9. What is your favourite tv show?
10. Morning person or Evening & why?
11.What actress/actor would you choose to play you in a film & why?

 

Ten lessons That Motherhood Has Taught Me.

I would say I have learnt a lot from Jake, He was born over a year ago now and I’m still learning. But I cant imagine my life without Jake at all now, Even if I’m thinking of what my life was like before Jake all I can think of now is Jake. Anyway I’m going to keep things nice and short in this post and just tell you the 10 things Jake has taught me.

  1. That wall you have built, Knock it down and wear your heart on your sleeve.
    Accept how you are feeling and express it.
  2. Give everyone a chance and if they’ve already had one give them another one.
  3. Kids come with their own minds. They will do what they want whenever they want and there’s nothing you can do about it. Yes that’s right lady in the café I want Jake to stop throwing his food on the floor too.
  4. Asking for help doesn’t mean you’re weak. It actually means you’re still thinking straight.
  5. It’s ok to break the rules sometimes… You got to keep your sanity right?
  6. Taking naps can fix a lot of things, Your child is annoying you? Send them to bed. Your child is having a tantrum? Send them to bed. 9/10 they’re tired.
  7. Toddlers have selective hearing. From calling them over nicely to telling them off because they’re doing something wrong, Yep Jake never does anything wrong.
  8. You’re slowly turning into your mum. Remember when she counted down to 5?
  9. Appreciate the small things in life, Including the small mini me too.
  10. Children have CCTV cameras built into them I swear!, You want to go to sleep? They will wake up, You want to have a shower?, they will wake up. Trust me, they know!

There it is ten things I’ve learnt. What have you learnt?

The Mummy Tag

I have decided to do the ‘Mummy Tag’ for those of you out there that want to get to know me a little bit better and to make it more fun I have tagged three lovely mummies to join in too.

If you want to join the lovely mummies elsewhere their social media’s etc. will be below.

Mel:
Twitter
Blog

Suhani Suri:
Twitter
Blog

Lou-Ekai
Twitter
Blog

So lets get started

Are you a stay at home mum or a working mum?
I am a stay at home mum due to being sacked whilst on maternity.
Until Jake goes to school then I am going to what I love best and pop myself back to college and get qualifications in writing!.

Do you co sleep?
No I do not, I do not have any problems with it. If you want to co sleep with your child you do that. Jake use to co sleep a little before he was one but then he out grew it and will only sleep in his cot, whether he will do it once he’s in a big boy bed we will see.

Would you have it any other way?
Nope I love my little boy and he’s such a little character.

What is your one must have item for your child?
Dummy definitely the damn dummy! I don’t allow Jake to have his dummy throughout the day as I want his speech to progress but there’s always 1 or 10 laying around just in case he becomes moody. Oh he also hides them when he knows he’s not meant to have it throughout the day.

How many kids do you plan on having?
I’ve always said that I just want the one but I really do want Jake to have a brother or sister preferably a sister but wouldn’t be fussed with either but if don’t get the chance to have another one then I’m lucky enough to have Jake.

Date Night? How many nights/days do you go out?
Single mummy so I don’t.

Your child’s favourite show?
Baby tv.

Name one thing you bought before you had your child and never used it?
Johnsons baby lotion, Never used that due to Jake having sensitive skin so had to leave the 6 bottles that was bought for me at Jake’s baby shower and had to buy a different cream.

Your child’s favourite food?
Spaghetti bolognaise

How many cars does your family have?
None.

Dream holiday with your child?
It’s between Disney land or centre parcs.

How has your life changed since your child has been born?
My mental health has changed for the better even though I still get days where it is difficult, I’ve learned to live in the moment and forget about everything else because it doesn’t matter to me anymore only the well-being of my boy Jake.

Finish the following sentence… ‘It makes my heart melt to see…
To see Jake smiling and laughing! Best feeling ever!.

Where do you shop for your child?
Clothes wise Tesco F&F clothing range seems to fit well on Jake as they are true to their sizing. Food shop more than likely to be Morrison’s as they have the perfect meals for one, But if im lazy then it’s more than likely to just be Tesco.

Favourite make up and skincare product?
My make up fluctuates from urban decay, jeffree star and nyx.
Skincare is from the brand ‘Simple’ i.e. simple micellar water.

Huggies or pampers?
Again It tends to fluctuate between the two but 9/10 it would just be pampers.

Have you always wanted a child?
Being totally honest here. No.
I didn’t want children to begin with not because I didn’t but because I was scared more than anything… The blood, The birth, The pain etc.. But then I thought no I do so I ‘manned up’ and just went with the flow.

Best part about being a mum?
Knowing that I have made something amazing, a child that will love me back, a child that will always look up to me, to always need me.