Jake’s 24 Month Update.

Yep that’s right Jake is now 2 years old! How is that possible?
On the 14th of May 2018 we celebrated Jake’s 2nd birthday! He’s absolutely obsessed with ‘Blaze & the monster machines’ as well as ‘jcb’s, Thomas the tank engine & cars’. So with all that to hand I got the perfect cake made for Jake and it was worth every penny to see the look on Jake’s face when he saw it, No of course he didn’t blow the candles out he was too busy trying to take the jcb’s off the cake. (Rolling eyes)

So what did we do for Jake’s second birthday? Well as Jake’s birthday fell on a Monday and everyone was working I decided that on the Sunday 13th of May I would take Jake to tapnell farm, Yes this is the same farm that we took him to for his first birthday too but he loves the farm and it was also a themed peppa pig day to which Jake did not get to meet her but he still had an amazing day at the farm.
Queue the pictures…

So what can Jake do or say now?
He knows and says his colours especially red.
He knows his ABC’s.
He can say his auntie Charlie’s name.
He can give kisses & loves cuddles.
He runs faster than what his legs can carry him.
He loves wearing sunglasses.
He sleeps in his big boy bed.
He also loves going to nursery and music time is his favourite time.
He has a special blanket that he cant sleep without.
He went on his first rollercoaster at peppa pig world and didn’t know what to make of it.
Jake can also count up to 10, still a slight hiccup with how he says the number 2 but he will get there.

Even though you have the odd wobbler you always hug me and show me how much you love me.

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A Letter to my Grandad.

To my Grandad, My bestfriend. I want you to know that just because you’re not here doesn’t mean I don’t think of you, Nor do I not talk about you.
I think about you all day everyday no matter what I’m doing, You passing has been the hardest thing to do in my life. I thought having a child was difficult but this just appears to be that little bit harder. The last time I saw you, You was so full of life whether you was in the hospital or not, You was still laughing even though you was in pain, You was still running around making Jake laugh even though you was in pain. The pain didn’t determine what you did or how you felt because you wouldn’t let it and admire you so much more for that! The last conversation we had was you told me how proud you was of me for bringing Jake up single handed, You was proud of the little boy Jake had turned into because of me, I will never forget that smile you put on my face for saying that. When I told you that I love you for the last time I knew you loved me back because I heard you breathing, You didn’t have to say anything because I knew it already. Everything you did for me I will never be able to thank you enough but I can promise you I will continue to make you proud of me and everything I do from now on is for you!
Fly high!❤️

So the 28th of April I found out that my grandad, my best friend, the man who use to carry me around car boot sales (yes they were fun back in the day only because I was there for the bouncy Castles and ice cream!). The man who took me to feed the ducks. Well he had cancer, what type you ask? The one where you couldn’t come back from. He was 66 and had bowel, liver and lung cancer. Never in my life did I think that at 23 years old I would have to deal with my grandad dying. He was suppose to watch jake grow up, he was suppose to take jake round the car boot sales, to feed the ducks, to do the same things with Jake as what he did with me.

On Saturday 5th of may my grandad passed. He couldn’t talk on the phone so I did the talking for him, I told him I love him and I always will and that he could beat anything.
Half an hour after I told him… He died.

I know you are watching over Me & Jake and I will see you again… One day!😇

Why I Let My 22 Month Old Play With IPad/Phones.

6 Months old ⬇️

19 Months old⬇️

Never did I ever think that I will be letting my son play on an iPad at such a young age, I always knew that he was going to explore new things but never did I think I had to give up my iPad to a 22 Month old child. In this day and age there’s a lot of stigma against parents letting their child use electronics at such a young age but it’s not the 90’s anymore, Sometimes we have to let things go and move on and accept change is going to happen no matter what year we are in. 

The reason why I’m shedding some light on this topic is because having your child using and iPad, iPhone whatever electronic device you have there’s always going to be a positive reason to letting your child play with that device and there’s always going to be a negative, But whether if its a toy or an electronic device you will always get that person looking at you thinking “That child is way to young” For example as Easter is nearby I bought Jake a big kinder egg the one that has the batman toys in and the woman serving me practically told me that if the toy is for my child then he’s too young for it even though the reason why I bought the egg wasn’t for the toy but lets not get into that story. The age that Jake started to use an iPad was at 6 months old, Now people reading this will say “that’s too young” or “You’re joking?”, Believe me I wish I was. I always had it in my head that Jake will reach 5 years old and want to use iPads etc. And I have always been open for him to use them with certain rules set in place.

So shall we look at the pros & cons?

Pros:
1. It makes him happy
2. Its helping him with his development i.e. He’s learning new words everyday, he’s learning how to count, he’s learning his ABC. The mixture of nursery & the iPad has helped Jake’s speech come along way!.
3. It gives us parents a bit of a break especially us single parents that just want 5 minutes to ourselves, that certain programme you want to watch but you cant because you’re stuck watching paw patrol or peppa pig!.
4. It can strengthen the bond between you and your child by playing learning games that your child is going to benefit from it, e.g. you ask your child ‘what colour the ball is’ or ‘what sound does a duck make’.

Cons:
1. It can bring out the devil in them, e.g. if you don’t set a time frame for your child  and when it comes to taking the iPad away the tantrums begin.
2.If the usage becomes too frequent it can be used as a bribe such as if your child is  bugging you at a time that isn’t convenient as you’re on the phone to pay a bill and you cant hear the person on the phone then out comes the iPad.
3. If your child is a toy thrower then I strongly advise that there is some sort of hardback case.
4. Some things on the iPad aren’t for little eyes, Such as you have to be so careful that if they’re on YouTube. What are they watching and is it actually beneficial to their learning?

Do I want my child playing on the iPad at such a young age? No.
But has it taught him loads? Yes.

Christmas with a toddler.

Ever picture the perfect Christmas with your child/children?
The mum & dad actually together, writing lists on what to get the child, One of the parents cooking the Christmas dinner or going round to one of the families/The families coming to you for Christmas.
Well that’s how I had visioned my first Christmas, But its no surprise that again this year I’m doing it single handed. (Well not totally alone I have my family).
The Christmas decks are up, the presents under the tree sitting there nicely and then all of a sudden a toddler comes along and pulls it down… Yep I thought that this year would have been Jake as he isn’t a newborn anymore (Sad face) and he is more aware than ever! But he’s been nothing but great, Touched the tree a few times as it’s fibre optic so he’s been fascinated with the colours of the lights.

Even though some parts of Christmas didn’t go too smoothly I wouldn’t have had it any other way. Seeing the look on your child’s face when they have new toys to play with is just the most amazing moment ever and I wouldn’t change it.

Here’s some photo’s below of what went down on my Christmas, What happened on yours? and what was your best part? Mine was seeing Jake’s smile even though he’s had a cold. Oh and also the turkey dinner!

How do you know what nursery is right for your child?

So September the 5th 2017 Jake started a nursery that I heard many good things about so I had no reason to look into, Not only that I did my work experience within that nursery and also live 2 minutes away so I thought it was perfect!… Boy was I wrong!

As the months went by the nursery began to show their true colours… Being that they only care about the money not the child. As many people know on November 2nd 2017 Jake had his first fit whether it’s epileptic that’s still to be confirmed but not even 2 weeks out of hospital and we was back up there again this time it was due to Jake having a temperature of 41, being sick and very restless turns out he had hand foot & mouth disease to which he had caught from the school, Now I’m not saying every school is perfect and yes children will catch things but there was no rules in place. Due to Jake being so unwell and in and out of hospital I rang the school and said that Jake will not be in for the week due to him being in and out of hospital and to me thinking he had chicken pox the manager of the school said it was no problem and that they will see Jake the week after. After the week had passed the antibiotics had worked and the cream cleared most of it up it became clear that is was hand foot & mouth disease and I had a bill of £112 to pay because Jake was off ill I still had to pay the staff even if my son is in school or not, Even though my son was ill because they allow children to go in unwell.
After this happened my mum then went to the nursery asked the manager “Would she turn up to work unwell & spread it to everyone else” The manager replied with “no”.
Well well well 2 weeks later and said manager was in the school greeting the children with a cold to which me, Jake & my family had caught safe to say I did my bit rang the nursery told them that Jake wont be attending anymore but I will pay for the sessions he had done the last week. Now something I would never do is ring people but I did and even though it was their answer machine I simply asked “To ring me back”. Did I get a call back? No I did not!.

Moral of the story is always do your research but also how do you know which nursery is the right one for your child?

100 Facts About Me.

I’ll keep this short and sweet as this post is going to be quite time consuming… That’s if you manage to get to the end! Colin has nominated me for a 100 Truths tag, in which I have to answer 100 questions truthly about myself. So here it is the whole truth and nothing but the truth! You can also find Colin’s post Here and if you want to see more of Colin then follow him over on Twitter

So here’s my 100 Facts about me!

BASIC

1. What’s your name?
Rebecca
2. Any nicknames or aliases?
Becca/Mumma
3.Your Gender?
Female.
4. Your star sign?
Virgo
5. How old are you?
23
6. Your relationship status?
Single… At the moment
7. Any children?
One, My son who we all know and love Jake!
8. Any pets?
None
9. Any tattoos or piercings?
I have 8 tattoos (plenty more to come), piercings I have 4.
10. What do you like about yourself?
Nothing, Literally!
11. What do you dislike about yourself?
Easy, Everything!
12. Righty or lefty?
Righty.

LASTS
13.The last thing you drank?
Pure orange juice.
14. The last thing you ate?
Jacket potato with cheese & beans and coleslaw!
15. Your last phone call?
My Father.
16. Your last text message?
To My Mum.
17. Your last email?
Pictures sent to my landlord to sort my bathroom out!
18. The last song you listened to?
Stormzy – Blinded by your grace.
Q19: The last book you read?
The last book I read was ‘Fifty shades of grey’ books and that was when they first came out! Now it’s just blog posts.
20. The last time you cried?
Last week.
21. The last blog you read?
Colin’s 100 facts since he tagged me in the post.
22. The last person you spoke to?
My Mum.
 23. The last place you visited?
A Pub for lunch.
24. Your last holiday abroad?
Never been abroad.

HAVE YOU EVER?
25. Have you ever gotten back with an ex?
Once & No it wasn’t Jake’s dad.
26. Have you ever been cheated on?
Yes by Jake’s dad!.
27. Have you ever cheated on someone?
Never.
28. Have you ever lost someone special to you?
Yes a baby!
29. Have you ever been so drunk you threw up?
Yes back when I was 18.
30. Have you ever fallen out of love with someone?
Yes.
31. Have you ever met someone who changed you?
Yes, But not for the better.
32. Have you ever been in a situation where you found out who your real friends are?
Yes, She decided to choose friends who she knew for 2 seconds.
33. Have you ever kissed someone you probably shouldn’t have?
Yeah Jake’s dad whilst he was with his girlfriend… Woops did I say something wrong?
34. Have you ever found out people were talking about you behind your back?
Yeah, Don’t care though. It feels good to know that I’m on that person’s mind!
35. Have you ever broken someone’s heart?
Not that I know of.
36. Have you ever kissed a stranger?
Nope.
37. Have you ever had your own heart-broken?
I have 3 times, What can I say I’m a hopeless romantic!
38. Have you ever had sex on the first date?
Hell No!
39. Have you ever been arrested?
No.
40. Have you ever been attracted to someone who isn’t the gender you usually find attractive?
No.
41. Have you ever done something you regret?
One part yes but the other no because I got Jake out of it!
42. Have you ever had a threesome?
Hell No.
43. Have you ever embarrassed yourself in public?
Not that I know of.
44. Have you ever misjudged someone?
I don’t really judge people to begin with.

YOUR BELIEFS AND OPINIONS
45. Do you believe in God?
No I don’t, But I wouldn’t hate someone for someone else’s beliefs.
46. Do you believe in yourself?
No not really.
47. Do you believe in Santa Claus?
No as I’m not 5 anymore but Jake will do.
48. Do you believe in ghosts?
It depends because I don’t but then if something happens within the house that I find spooky then yes!
49. Do you believe in aliens?
No.
50. Do you believe in miracles?
Yes Because my son is one. I didn’t think I could have kids and if I can it’s difficult.
51. Do you believe in the power of positive thinking?
Not really. Someone always has to give me that push think positive.
52. Do you believe in love at first sight?
No.
53. Can money make you happy?
Yeah only till it runs out.
54. Would you describe yourself as a feminist?
If I’m honest I’m not 100% sure. I believe in being equal that’s it.
55. Are you pro-life or pro-choice?
pro-choice, Never know the situation.
56. Do you have strong political beliefs?
Not really, It all confuses me!
57. Do you have strong religious beliefs?
No.
58. What do you think the most important thing you can give a child is?
Your Love.

RIGHT NOW
59. Are you eating anything right now?
No I’m writing this post.
60. Are you drinking anything right now?
Yes, Fanta fruit twist.
61. What are you listening to right now?
Nothing.
62. What are you thinking about right now?
My son.
63. What are you waiting for right now?
Well it’s 9:54pm so bed!
64. What are you most excited about right now?
Seeing my boy open his presents on Christmas day!
65. What’s your pet hate right now?
People who keep walking out in front of my pushchair knowing i’m there.
66. What’s your favourite thing right now?
seeing my boy smile and laugh.
67. If you weren’t answering these questions, what would you be doing right now?
Going to bed and watching youtube.

FIRSTS
68. Your first best friend?
A girl called Sophie who I grew up with.
69. Your first kiss?
Was when I was 13.
70. Your first celebrity crush?
Lee from steps!.
71. Your first holiday?
When was younger use to visit the Isle of Wight for holidays now I live here.
72. Your first pet?
A dog called gromit.
73. Your first regret?
Working for Poundland.
74. Your first job?
Working in a school.
75. Your first childhood memory?
Being diagnosed for epilepsy and going in and out of hospitals for brain scans.

WHICH WOULD YOU CHOOSE?
76. Love or money?
Money.
77. Twitter or Facebook?
Twitter.
78. Hook up or relationship?
Relationship.
79. Dogs or cats?
Love them both.
80. Coffee or tea?
Love both.
81. Beer or wine?
Neither.
82. Sweet or savoury?
Both. What food is food!.
83. Introvert or extrovert?
Introvert.
84. Vampires or werewolves?
Neither.
85. Seaside or countryside?
Uhm… I thought the seaside & countryside are the same thing as i live out in the countryside but it has seaside’s! I’m more of a city girl to be honest.
86. Summer or winter?
Winter.
87. Books or movies?
Both, depends on what mood I’m in.
88. Horror or comedy?
Comedy.

A FEW RANDOM QUESTIONS TO FINISH ON
89. Do you wish you could change your past?
Can I just change who Jake’s dad is?
90. What’s your dream job?
To be a writer.
91: What’s your guilty pleasure?
Michael Buble is!
92: What are you afraid of?
Blood, Horror films & Robbie Williams.
93. What was the first thing you wanted to be when you grew up?
I wanted to be a dancer.
94. If you could have any super power, what would it be?
Got to be dead pool’s healing process.
95. If you could change anything about your life what would it be?
nothing.
96. Would you want immortality?
Only for my loved ones, where as for myself when my times up its up.
97. If you could interview anyone alive or dead who would you choose?
Michael buble! but knowing me I would just stare the whole time!
98. Would you say you are happy?
Yes very! but I also know how to fake a smile!
99. What one piece of advice would you give to yourself at age eighteen?
To just be happy.
100. Where would you like to be in five years’ time?
hopefully have a family, give Jake a brother or sister and to be either finishing my open university course and  in a well paid job that I love.

So there was my 100 facts. Where’s yours?….
Jasmin’s Twitter  Jasmine’s Blog

Leah’s Twitter Leah’s Blog

Ryan’s Blog

A letter to my baby!

I’m writing this letter for everyone to see but also one person in particular for when he is older and that would be my baby Jake (who is not a baby anymore, Sad Face).
So here it goes I guess…

To my baby Jake as you’re growing bigger my heart is growing bigger for you not a day goes by that I don’t think of you even when I’m sleeping I’m still probably dreaming of that infectious smile because I just cant get enough of it.
From the day I found out I was pregnant I knew you was going to be my world and much more. From the kicks in my tummy, feeling your heartbeat on my chest and now seeing that cheesy grin right in front of me I knew that you was going to my one and only and that will NEVER change no matter what the future holds.
Hopefully in the future you will get the family you want and deserve, you will have a person in your life that you can call ‘Dad’ and I’d like to think that you will have a brother or sister might not be blood but it wouldn’t matter to me as long you’re okay with it that’s all that matters. I am so sorry for the heartache that you will have to go through wondering if you did anything wrong because ‘daddy’ didn’t want to stick around, But you didn’t do anything wrong ‘daddy’ just didn’t want to own up to his responsibilities where as you will grow up to be a much better man because you’re being raised by me ‘Durrr’.

Writing this is the most painful thing to write as you don’t have what most people have and that’s a dad. Everyday I wake up scared because when you’re older I don’t want you to hate me for your dads actions, I don’t want you to say “Mum why aren’t I allowed to see my dad?” because that question isn’t valid, If you want to see your dad then so be it we’ll go see him and you can ask him them questions yourself, I will never stop you from doing what you want, You are your own person and always will be. The choices you make is the path you take.

But that isn’t what I wanted to focus on, What I wanted to focus on saying to you is that no matter what happens just remember I love you and I tried my best. I struggled because I wanted you to have the best childhood anyone could have asked for. When my plate had nothing on it I made sure yours did, I’ve given up getting my hair & nails done, I’ve given up having a phone contract to a pay as you go just so that you can have everything!
But here’s where the promises come into everything…
I promise to be the best mum I can be, I promise to never let you forget how much you are loved especially when I’m taking you to the school gates and forcing you to give me a kiss before I let you go, I promise that I will do my best to never let anyone hurt you, I promise to listen to you when you need to talk… Even if it is about girls!

But Jake when you’re reading this hopefully on your 18th birthday then I’m sorry for making the video where you’re twerking public! (Well I’m not sorry actually, I loved every minute of it!).

Love you Jake!